Brain Fart 18: Communications 101

So, a few people like to come to me for relationship help. I don't understand why. I've only been in one bf/gf relationship, and have, like, no experience. But what little I have learned, mostly from watching others, is that the key to any kind of interpersonal relationship, whether it be friendship, gf/bf, parent/child, or whatever else, is communication.

You HAVE to communicate. Tell each other what you're thinking, what you're feeling. This seems so obvious, and it is. But it's still so hard. People worry about how the other party is going to react, or they assume that nothing needs to be said, like it's already understood. It's not. People can't read minds. For example, in any relationship where a boy is "talking" to a girl, the guy may say "I like you." Then, for some reason or another,the girl starts feeling insecure, and wishes the guy to say it again. But, the guy doesn't think he needs to, because he's already said it. Well, time has passed, and feelings change. Everyone knows that. So maybe, not necessarily in a gushy, gross way, they should reassure that girl to let them know that the feelings are still there.

There is an infinite amount of possible feelings, thoughts, and reasons for doing things. But when you don't communicate, we tend to limit what those possibilities are, and make assumptions. Then, misunderstandings are born, and trust dies away. And trust is another vital key to successful relationships.

So, don't make assumptions.

JUST TALK.